When I saw this picture on Facebook the other day, I could not help but burst my lungs out , laughing. As you can see, it would appear that this woman waited for the impossible! As I scrolled down through the comments, I wasn't at all surprised that most of the reaction came from women!
In her book, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough, Lori Gottlieb, purports that women who refuse to commit unless they find a man with whom they feel a deep, romantic love are consigning themselves to a lonely future. Gottlieb, a single mother of 40, admits that she wishes she had "settled" during her search for Mr Right. It is well documented that unlike the olden days where women used to rely on men for stability in terms of material support among other things, the modern day woman is self-sufficient, therefore, is not under pressure to get married. It would appear that the woman of today has options and is becoming more and more independent.
I also read somewhere that society will have us believe that we shouldn't want certain things in life, or be known to prefer certain things lest we be placed under a certain umbrella. For example, a lady who values the finer things in life, and one who will not give a man who is not wealthy a second look is often dubbed a 'gold digger'. Should this lady then pretend not to want what she wants for fear of having a label attached to her? Does the society expect her to go for a man who does not have anything to his name hoping that one day he wakes up with an epiphany? Isn't she then settling for what she thinks is his potential and not the man that he really is? If love is all that matters to a woman, fine! By all means 'be in love' with the man. I am a big believer in the magic of true love, but for Pete's sake if you chose love then don't turn around further down the line and start calling that man all names under the sun because he hasn't become what you hoped he would be.
The message here is simple ....be honest about what it is that you want in a man. Don't marry someone to please those who are watching. But at the same time bear in mind that there's no such thing as a perfect human being. No one man will tick all your boxes. Compromise a little.