More often than not we regard disabled persons (all forms) as individuals to be pitied. When they are going about their business, be it in wheelchairs or appear awkward or uncoordinated or incoherent than we are, we jump to their aid, at times take over; because we believe and/or are convinced that they can’t cope, therefore, need us. There is nothing at all wrong with helping or wanting to care for the ones we consider to be vulnerable. But there are times when we need to take a step back and let them get on with it as our help could be doing more harm than good.
Eating may be a doddle for you and I, but of what consequence is it to us if it takes them a bit longer to move a spoon from hand to mouth? They are only living their life the best way they know how. Why pity them because of it? Why take away their pride, dignity and independence? Why make them feel less equal and less worthy than others? We alter our body language and speak in condescending tones (well done dear, you're so lovely, that's good etc) just to let them know that we recognise how different from us they are. It got to stop!